It is the perfect storm, nones and creamation. This leads those who are in charge of your funeral arrangements many different options. Unless you have arrangments spelled out and backed by legal counsel, the nones in your family with give you a special kind of funeral--NONE!
I read obituaries. And more and more I am seeing words like this, code words: Funeral arrangments will be announced at a later date. What does this mean? There will not be a funeral. How can this be? Because cremation is used and you can dispose of the ashes in any way you wish. Many simply let the funeral director decide or the place of cremation can decide what to do with the ashes.
But get this, if you read some obituaries and I just read one this morning, the nones are becoming even more emboldened. At the end of one obituary I read it said this. THERE WILL BE NO FUNERAL.
In my nearly 40 years of ordination, it has only been recently, within the last four years or so, that I have seen Catholics who are not being given funerals by their families nor are any Masses being scheduled for the happy repose of their souls.
I have even had parishioners who have died that weren't even given an obituary in the newspaper and no one knew the person had died except by word of mouth.
What to do; what to do; oh what are we to do?