It appears that Pope Francis recommended that a gay couple His Holiness had called, two men, who have three children (either adopted, artificial insemination, who knows, but the children are still children) have them baptized and a reared in the Church. His Holiness recommended they see their pastor (in Italy) and discuss the situation. The kids were enrolled in CCD and have become altar servers. You can read the NCR article HERE.
At two of my parishes where I had Catholic schools, we had children enrolled whose parents were gay couples, either lesbian or two males. The parents did not rock the boat. Their children were well behaved and no distinction was made with them and the other children in the two schools.
In one case, the grandparents made sure that their grandchild who had gay parents who were not interested in raising their child in the faith, took on that responsibility with the parent’s permission and cooperation.
We live in a different cultural context today with gay civil marriage and more and more highlighting a gay families in commercial, television shows and movies. Several guests on Wheel of Fortune indicate that they are married to same sex partners and no one blinks an eye. HGTV reality shows showcase gay couples looking for homes, renovating existing one or are the hosts. This is the new “normal.”
Thus, just as the institutional Church has to grapple with this new public reality endorsed by the secular and governmental leaders, the Church cannot come across as bigoted or hateful.
That is a delicate task, more of an art and certainly not a science in terms of pastoral responses.
And sins against charity, even when directed to public sinners, are still mortal sins. So sinners who throw stones at other sinners, whose only sin might be sodomy, whereas the stone thrower is a despicable character who name calls, cheats, steals but presents himself as a virtuous Catholic, Houston, we have a problem. There are no more serious or less serious mortal sins. All of them that the sinner is unrepentant can lead Jesus to condemning them to the eternal fires of hell. But only Jesus can do that, since He knows all the facts.