However, family or friends may offer these reflections at the “Vigil of the Deceased”
(Wake/Visitation) following the Prayer Service after the priest or deacon has offered the final blessing and departed. The Catholic Funeral Rites entrust our beloved faithful departed into the arms of God’s mercy and we pray for the repose of the soul of the faithful departed. We pray for the consolation of those who remain. Therefore the Catholic funeral rites are in no way to be described as a “celebration of life” but rather as prayer to entrust the faithful departed to God and to celebrate what brings about forgiveness, redemption and salvation: the passion, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. Any words remembering the deceased must not give scandal by pointing out the deceased person’s sin or glorifying these sins in any way.
Ottawa Catholics are no longer able to give eulogies for lost loved ones during funeral masses, after the Archbishop for the region issued a decree ending the practice this month.
Archbishop Terrence Prendergast issued the decree, effective as of Feb. 2, because he said eulogies take away from what the funeral mass should be about — praying for the deceased and their family, not praising them.
Archbishop Terrance Prendergast said priests in Ottawa have long allowed eulogies, but said the custom has gotten out of hand. (my comment: you better believe it, ridiculously out of hand where the sins of the faithful departed are aired in the open and glorified!)
The decree states that eulogies or words of remembrance are not an official part of the Catholic funeral rites, and rightfully belong at a wake service or at a grave site.
“Technically the books that guide us don’t allow them, but they had crept in,” Prendergast told Hallie Cotnam on Ottawa Morning. Eulogies are “words of praise without reference to God” said Prendergast, while a mass “is an act of faith.”
Prendergast said the church was facing increasing pressure from families to have more eulogies and even multiple eulogies within the same service and said the mass itself was getting lost.