But, and this is what I like, the readers for the Scripture and the Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion had to be from the parish's bereavement committee (in other words, parish installed readers and EMC's). This is excellent. I would recommend it for weddings too.
But we all know that the 1970's mentality taught to children beginning in Catholic elementary school was that they should and must plan liturgies, pick and choose, manipulate and be creative. Well the chickens are coming home to roost with our very narcissistic generation of liturgy planners who want it done their way (which is the theme song of hell, "I Did It My Way!")
Well, the Deacon Bench is reporting on yet one more Funeral Mass Gone Wild something poor former PI is in complete denial or hasn't had enough funeral Masses to know what he is talking about.
Here is the sad story as reported by the Deacon's Bench:
From a TV station in Rochester, New York:
A local family said a priest suddenly stopped their loved one’s funeral during the ceremony.
Michael Klimchuk said Father Louis Sirianni at Saint Mark’s Church in Greece ended the funeral mass for his sister, Mary, Monday because a family member went outside the order of the mass and wanted to do another reading. He said Father Sirianni then said, “Now is not the time,” and ended the funeral mass itself.
“This is the last time we have to pay respects to my sister,” said Klimchuk. “She’s 35 years old. She just passed away, I mean we needed to do certain things in order to pay our respects and say goodbye. He denied us that.” The family claimed he was rude and could have handled it differently, adding they were appalled. 13WHAM News reached out to the church Tuesday night and asked Father Sirianni if he would speak with us. He declined.
The Diocese of Rochester released the following statement Tuesday:
“The Diocese office has not received any complaints. The liturgical rites of the Catholic Church, especially as they concern the celebration of the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass, are governed by universal norms of the General Instruction of the Roman Missal, the Code of Canon Law, and the Order of Christian Funerals. The latter provides for Words of Remembrance after the Closing Prayer. Regrettably, there was a misunderstanding or lack of information regarding this optional part of the Rite. It appears that individuals became upset when instructed about the proper place for these reflections. When the upset continued, the Funeral Rites were completed with hymns, incensation of the body and final prayers. A Memorial Mass will be offered for the deceased tomorrow.”Read more.
The family said a letter has been sent to Rochester Bishop Salvatore Matano. They said they do not want similar experiences to happen to other families.
UPDATE: A local columnist offered more details on this mess:
As the family tells it, a woman assigned to read from the Bible at the Mass attempted to follow her reading with the passage from Ecclesiastes.My comment: This whole thing reminds me that Catholics now see themselves as consumers and priests are sales persons like at Sears. The customer should get what they want. They are always right!
The priest told the reader to take a seat, to which the deceased’s father told the priest to let her proceed, to which the priest responded that then was not the time for an additional reading, to which the mother of the deceased began crying inconsolably, to which the priest ended the service then and there and delivered the last rites.
Did the priest overact? Maybe, maybe not. We don't know the back story and what he had to put up with in terms of this family wanting this, that and the other during the funeral. I'd love to know what music was chosen! I'd like to know what the planning process was like too.
Should a priest who becomes enraged by something happening at Mass, any Mass, continue and in continuing enraged, would it be a sacrilege? Is it better to end it or find another priest to end it if the Mass has proceeded to a point of no return?