Here I am, warm, friendly, nurturing, empathetic, come get me! Too Feminine?
Too feminine; too masculine? We can only know that by looking at the Ordinary Form and the Tridentine or Extraordinary Form of the Mass and gender roles from the 1950's until today as what men should exude.
My undergraduate degree is in sociology and therefore I understand that gender roles are very much decided by society and culture and differ from culture to culture. In traditional Italian culture one would think nothing of two women walking down the street arm in arm--there was nothing overtly sexual about it. The same is true of two men kissing each other on each side of the face when greeting another man they know well.
In the USA in the 1950's and 60's masculine roles were identified with being warrior-like, protector, fighter, provider, stoic, strong, and introverted or meditative. Female roles were softer, open, community oriented, mother, housewife,all of which indicated they were the "weaker" sex.
The Tridentine/Extraordinary Mass has military characteristics to it, precision, regimentation, no room for creativity, and it is definitely not oriented toward the extroverted man or his personality. It is not about the male exuding warmth and hospitality, loving and caring attitude by his demeanor which are traditionally viewed as female qualities.
The Tridentine Mass inspires males who are not into the touchy-feely, smiley, empathetic, or creative, free wheeling forms of personality. The Ordinary Form of the Mass does attract men who like the above. In fact I would say part of the difficulty with the Ordinary Form Mass is that we've got to cajole men who aren't necessarily warm, empathetic, all embracing types to be that way at Mass. Reserved, quiet strength is now perceived as a weakness, aloof and narrow and not conducive to the warm, nurturing and empathetic forms of ministry many perceive the priest should exude today.
Several years ago I heard Monsignor Stephen Rossetti, who a well known priest-psychologist and has treated priests for serious pathologies, state that he thought the modern Mass made women (and some men) more attracted to person of the priest himself and not always in healthy ways, because the priest comes across in the Ordinary Form of the Mass as "available,open, warm,empathetic,and nurturing" and sometimes unlike most of the men women know, especially their husbands. As well the large arm gestures at the greetings and at other times says symbolically, "Here I am, come and get me! I'm available." Women (and some men) love that in a man. This has had devastating results for not a few men called to celibacy and the priesthood.
Boys use to like playing soldier, watching parades and things regimented. They liked boys clubs, which altar boys once were. Today, feminists would deride all of that especially the priesthood as a boy's club. But somehow the manliness of the Tridentine Mass (even with elaborate vestments and lace albs, which I know is a paradox) pointed to quiet, reserved strength and pointed to beautiful, heavenly mysteries and not to the person of the priest or his personality which were always downplayed.
The reform of the Ordinary Form of the Mass, but in continuity with the Extraordinary Form of the Mass must look at healthy male psychology and what attracts men to the priesthood and liturgical rites of the Church.